Peaches had a slightly off day yesterday.  She wrote me a very sweet message this morning asking whether I thought she was fooling herself during the times that she thinks she’s in balance only to be thrown completely off balance by something happening around her.  In other words, if she’s truly in balance, then things happening around her should slide right off her back, like water off a duck, right?  This blog entry is the response to her question that came spilling out of me.  I hope she doesn’t mind that I’m sharing it here; somehow, it seems to good not to share with others who might really hear what I’m trying to say.

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Hi Honey,

Well, you know, the thing that Abraham-Hicks always says is that when you think about what you want and WHY YOU WANT IT, then you’ve turned yourself downstream (you’re going with the flow of life) and the things you want will flow to you easily.  But when you think about what you want and HOW YOU’RE GOING TO GO ABOUT GETTING IT (unless you actually know the answer to the question of “how”) then you’ve turned yourself upstream (going against the flow of life.)  And as Abraham-Hicks says, “Nothing you want is upstream.”

We aren’t perfect, you and me.  What’s great about us is that we do try.  We self examine.  We question what’s going on in our own minds.  We look at the results we get in our day to day lives, and we do what we can to make the adjustments in our vibration so that our energies turn downstream towards what it is that we do want.  We don’t resist guidance.  We don’t fight it.  We don’t stubbornly hold to what we don’t want just to prove a point or to be defiant. 

“A Course in Miracles” says that the thing in life that will get us what we want (alignment with our desires) is “a little willingness.”  It’s our little willingness to make the effort to be better that assures our success in all that we set out to do.  Success might not always look like what we expect it to, but you have to know that the Universe is delivering to us all that we desire.  Our love and commitment to each other, the peace, serenity and passion in our relationship is proof of our growing alignment.  You’ve never experienced a relationship like this one before, have you?  Neither have I.  The only reason we’re experiencing this amazing love now is because of our little willingness to keep reaching for alignment, to keep reaching for the downstream thoughts, to keep looking for the vibrational cause first, rather than to keep looking for physical causes outside of our control. 

Nothing happens to us without our participation in it, good or bad.  Nothing can happen to us, no one can say something that affects us, nothing comes to us unless we’re in vibrational alignment with that experience first.  There’s never an exception to that.

I love you very much, sweetheart.  Thank you for being my beloved co-creator.  Everyday I wake up thrilled to see what comes next for you and me.  Who knew that everyday life could be so exciting, thrilling and adventuresome even at our age.  The best is yet to come.  The Universe is holding so much super exciting stuff in vibrational escrow for you and me!  It’s all there, waiting for us to come into vibrational alignment.  It’s all waiting just out of our grasp waiting for us to move an inch further downstream so we can wrap our arms around all that we ever dreamed of.  This is the best part of our love, that we, as individuals, have grown so good at living the contrast of what we don’t want just enough for the other to say, “I see that you’re experiencing what you don’t want.  What is it that you do want?  Reach for the better feeling thought.”  In other words, we’ve become a manifestation team that can’t be stopped.  There’s nothing we can’t accomplish.  There’s nothing in all the Universe that we can’t be, do or have, if only we remember to reach for it.  And joyful life experience is our never ending reward in all of this creation. 

XOXO,
K

Oh, I love Forgiveness Day.  Forgiveness is one of my favorite things to contemplate.

And Forgiveness Day is a day to actively, consciously invoke the experience of forgiveness towards everyone in general, for nothing in particular!

Several of the Ishaya monks I’ve known have shared with me over the years a concept that can be described as “The Path of Return”.  In a nut shell, when God created this Universe and gifted it to humanity (so that we might pick up where He left off and create within God’s Creation) God stashed within every particle of this Universe a set of tools that humanity could utilize at any time to find our way back to our Source.  This idea is similar to the way that our DNA has built into it the blueprint that allows a single dividing cell to develop into the trillions of cells that make up the human body.  These tools that are hidden in the particles of Creation, when activated, automatically begin the process of drawing us back home to God, to our Source; we don’t need to know how they work or why they work, we need only trust that God put them there for a single purpose and that they do work.  Following this Path of Return is synonymous with Enlightenment.

So how does one go about activating the Path of Return?  That’s the easiest, most elegant part.  By aligning our thoughts, actions and energy with the upward emotions of Forgiveness, Gratitude, Love, Joy, and Praise.  Yeah, it’s that simple.  Choose to live a life of Praise, Gratitude and Love and you’ve activated the Path of Return and have begun your journey home to God.  And one of the essential keys that allows us to align our energies with Love, Gratitude and Praise is FORGIVENESS!

I hear a lot of people ask the question, “How do I forgive?  I don’t know how.”  A lot of religions encourage forgiveness, but very few actually explain “… and this is how you do it…” 

This is what has worked for me.  I’ve used this technique to affectively, quickly get me through some of the darkest times of my life.  When I feel really low about something or someone, I simply focus on forgiving everyone who comes to mind one at a time until I feel better.  It’s kind of like this: “I forgive my mom.  I forgive my father.  I forgive the guy who cut me off this morning.  I forgive my ex-girlfriend.  I forgive my fourth grade teacher.  I forgive the cop who pulled me over.  I forgive my boss.  I forgive my wife.  I forgive myself….”  I try to not give any thought to what I’m forgiving people for, I simply forgive them.  The book, “A Course in Miracles”, says that when we forgive someone for something in particular that we believe they’ve done, then we’ve hidden a judgment about that person and their act in our attempt to forgive.  In other words, invoking the healing energy of forgiveness while at the same time adding a little judgment into it only serves to dilute the sweet energy of forgiveness.  Pass no judgment, only forgive.  When I’ve done this exercise during dark times in my life, it never fails to make me feel better.  And when I’m done, even if the darkness starts creeping back into my heart again 5 minutes later, then I start over again: “I forgive my mom.  I forgive my dad.  I forgive my wife.  I forgive my boss….”  See, next time maybe the darkness won’t start to creep back in for 6 minutes.  Then I do it again.  And maybe next time the darkness won’t come back for 10 minutes.  And after I do it again, maybe it’ll take an hour for the darkness to creep back in.  Eventually, the darkness will have passed for good, and much quicker than if I’d just let the darkness have its way with me. 

This part is very, very important; I can’t stress it enough.  When doing this forgiveness exercise (which really works by the way), IT IS ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY IMPERITIVE THAT YOU ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS INCLUDE YOURSELF, YES FORGIVE YOURSELF EACH AND EVERY TIME YOU USE THIS EXERCISE!!!

I have to repeat that: ALWAYS REMEMBER TO FORGIVE YOURSELF WHEN UTILIZING THIS FORGIVENESS EXERCISE!!!!

Trust me, this exercise works.  It can heal your heart.  It can heal broken relationships.  It can, over time, create a stable pattern of forgiveness in even the hardest heart.  Most importantly, increasing the level of forgiveness within one’s heart also serves the purpose of unlocking the Path of Return, of putting our feet firmly on the path to enlightenment.

And so, hopefully, you see how forgiveness has nothing at all to do with excusing bad behavior in others.  Forgiveness is not at all about condoning bad behavior.  We forgive others for our own sake.  Because I love myself, because I want the sweetest, most joyful life experience humanly possible, I forgive everyone for everything.  When we hold a grudge, we hurt no one but ourselves.  If I’m angry at my ex-girlfriend for something she did, she’s not the one who’s suffering with the resentment… I am!  If I choose to hold a resentment against anyone, I’m allowing what they did to diminish my joyful life experience.  The choice is mine.  I have all the power!

“A Course in Miracles” is clear on this point.  There are only 2 emotions: Love and fear.  And fear is nothing more than the absence of Love.  As darkness is the absence of light, easily dispelled when a light is turned on, so fear is the absence of Love, easily dispelled when Love is activated.  According to “A Course in Miracles”, the ultimately goal of forgiveness is the “undoing of fear.”  Whatever it is that has been done that we believe has hurt us in some way, through forgiveness we have the power to undo those acts as if they were never done.  This is the Path of Return.  This is Unconditional Love.  This is learning to see each other as God sees us.  This is finally accessing our purest Divine Nature.  And when we do that, we are home.

Join me today, National Forgiveness Day, in forgiving everyone in general for nothing in particular.  What do you have to lose?

I love you all!

XO,
K

Yeah, I know, this is a really weird one, but there it is.  And because I’m a pink kinda girl, I just had to wear the brightest, boldest, most girly pinks in my closet to work today!  I thought about sticking Hello Kitty window clings on the windows in my office at work, but… that might be going a little too far.  I’ll put the window clings up another day.

Speaking of going too far… Peaches and I went out yesterday and purchased a brand new 8 foot pool table that’s being delivered and set up in our home today.  And not just because today is National Pink Day, but because I’m the girly-girl (and Peaches lets me get away with these things) our pool table has bubblegum-pink felt!  (Thanks to Cherise who suggested getting a Hello Kitty bed sheet to use as our table cover.)  We also have a lovely brass overhead lamp to suspend above the pool table with 3 cobalt-blue glass shades.  (If anyone reading this blog knows where we can get either Hello Kitty pool balls, Barbie pool balls or Disney Princess pool balls, please let me know!)

I have to say that I’m just so grateful to have found true love in this lifetime.  Peaches is the most amazing person I’ve ever known. 

I’ve known myself a very long time.  I know how difficult I can be to get along with, and I know how strange I can sometimes appear to many people.  I never entirely expected to meet and fall in mutual love with another human being with whom I could so perfectly “click with” almost from the moment that we met.  I am totally blessed to have been found by Ishaya monks and law of attraction teachers; it was my spiritual teachers who helped me to understand that I can be, do and have anything I can imagine in this life.  The Ishayas frequently made me aware of all the compromises I was making in my life that weren’t serving my well being.  The law of attraction teachers showed me the path by which could locate and bond forever with my most ideal mate.  They told me, I believed them, and my marriage with Peaches is the resultant proof.

And now I feel duty bound (and joy bound) to share with anyone who is prepared to hear the lessons as they’ve been taught to me.  There is nothing different or unique about Peaches and me; there is nothing we have that doesn’t already belong to every man, woman and child upon the earth today.  The only substantial difference between the woman who lives the life of abundance and joy, and the woman who lives a life of pain and sorrow is alignment.

My life with Peaches is what alignment looks like.  We’ve come to each other as if by magic.  Whatever we can dream of with focus and alignment comes to us as if by magic.  Beautiful homes, pink pool tables, friends, love, abundance.  Allowing and alignment is all that Peaches and I hope to share with all that we come into contact with.  Manifesting pink pool tables is only one the ways that we set about accomplishing that goal.

XO,
K

 

Peaches and the pink table

 

It casts quite the pink glow in the room after dark.

~~> The woman I love ~~~> Dreams ethereal visions ~~~~> The world cannot crush.

Are you in a hurry?  Feeling pressured to get more done in less time?  Well, today is a day for you.  This is World Sauntering Day, a day to maintain a leisurely pace whatever you happen to be doing.  Sounds good to me.

I realize that my Eat Your Veggies Day entry was a bit convoluted and confusing.  I just had something on my mind and had to get it out.  I apologize for that.  For me, this blog is still first and foremost my diary.  Why do I subject the innocents who happen upon this blog to the ravings of my inner mind?  Because I can.

It’s hard to believe that it was one year ago tomorrow, June 20th, that I signed up for this blog, and on June 22, 2008 I wrote my first entry.  You’d think I’d be bored by now.  I mean, there are really only a couple of people who look at this stuff, ever.  (Hi Megan!)  But I’ve been keeping diaries for so long (wow, 31 years), this stuff just comes spilling out.  This is how I process, writing my thoughts and releasing them to the Universe.  I suppose blogging appeals to me because having an audience allows me to imagine that the Universe is paying attention to me.

Looking back over this past year, so much has changed.  New people have come into my life; others have moved on.  Peaches and I have completely separated from her family, and we’ve grown a little closer to mine.  Peaches took my name.  We moved into a great new house.  Best of all, Peaches and I have grown deeper in love in ways we could never have anticipated.  I’ve never experienced love like this.  I didn’t even know it existed.  But I know it now, and somehow I want to share it with the world.

It’s funny and silly to go back and look at some of the things I was writing about in this blog a year ago.  One thing I use to do a lot of, that I miss, is write awful haiku.  I use to LOVE writing these terrible haiku poems.  I’m not sure why I stopped.  It’s funny that I should look back and see some of those poems in old blog entries; I talked with an old friend who I haven’t heard from in a long time the other day, and he asked if I’m still writing haiku poems.  He reminded me that I got him into writing haiku 2 or 3 years ago, and he said that he still writes them thanks to me.  Between Pete’s encouragement, and my little retrospective of one year of blogging, I’m feeling inspired to get back into writing the world’s worst haiku poetry.  Be warned. 

To prove my point:

 

Anyway, if I were to sum up the best of what I feel I’ve learned in this past year of blogging, I’d say, “Nothing is more important than that I feel good.”  Really, this understanding was already deeply ingrained in my being before I started blogging, but it’s been very enlightening and affirming to help Peaches to understand and experience the truth of that statement over this past year.

When we met, Peaches was deeply enmeshed in the lessons she learned through 12 years of Catholic school and 20 years of unhappy marriage.  Like most of us, Peaches was trained to believe by those who dominated her, “I need YOU to behave in a way that makes ME feel good, and believe me, YOU want ME to feel good; it’s very important to YOU that I feel good.”  Indeed, Peaches still describes herself as a people pleaser.

It has been extraordinarily satisfying and enlightening for me to help guide Peaches along the path of understanding that NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THAT SHE FEELS GOOD!  It has been wildly beneficial to my own growth and understanding to bear witness to Peaches’ awakening to her own soul, her own power, and her own personal relationship with the GOD of her understanding.  Truly, over the course of this year, Peaches and I have become student and teacher to each other, and together we’ve opened the flood gates so that Universal Love and Abundance effortlessly flow through us to touch the lives of everyone we come into contact with. 

What do I imagine the year ahead has in store for us?  I can’t even begin to imagine… but I know this much, THE BEST IS YET TO COME!

XO,
K

Yes!  As a life-long vegetarian, this is a holiday that I can sink my teeth into.  Strangely enough, Peaches (who is also a life-long vegetarian) doesn’t like vegetables.  Yeah, you heard me right, a vegetarian who doesn’t like vegetables.  She makes concessions for me; we eat a lot of salads.  Left to her own, I have a feeling that Peaches would mostly be a carb-etarian.  Today, however, is a day to eat your veggies.

Today is also World Jugglers Day.  Now, I know that this is really about people who juggle balls and bowling pins and chainsaws and such, but juggling really has other meanings.  Busy people all over the world know what it means to juggle responsibilities and relationships.  I’m beginning to come to an understanding that aligning one’s energies with joyful living is a real affective way to end social juggling.  In essence, settling into a life pattern of peace and learning to practice the law of allowing is akin to deciding that juggling is no way to live.  Alignment with peace, joy and harmony feels a lot like ease.  Living a joyful life takes a lot less concentration than juggling lots of contradictory energies.

I have some dear friends who are deeply in love with each other (like Peaches and I are.)  I don’t think Becky and Denise will mind me sharing their story.

Becky and Denise fell in love quickly.  They hadn’t been together very long before they began planning their future as a committed couple, living together as a family under a single roof.  Becky and I have a lot in common; we both have a deep seated commitment to living life as joyfully as possible.  When Denise first met Becky, she’d never met anyone so at peace, so calm, so still.  She was instantly hooked.

Denise is older than Becky.  She’s been in and out of a lot of relationships in her life, and for the most part she’s only been with chaotic, conflict-oriented people.  Becky is like a breath of fresh air to Denise. 

Denise has an ex-husband, a man that she was married to for a very long time, and that she’s been divorced from for quite a few years.  Denise and Pete were still friends when Denise met Becky. 

Pete is very conflict oriented, very angry, and he liked to use his ex-wife as a sounding board whenever he felt angry with someone (which is often.)  Denise and Pete had had this arrangement for a very long time, and Denise found comfort in it; after all, she’d known this man for most of her life, and together they raised a couple of children.  Pete’s brand of venting felt very familiar to Denise.  Listening to Pete’s complaints gave Denise a sense of continuity, kind of like, the world today is pretty much like the world yesterday, year after year, decade after decade, and that seemed to resemble stability.

Until Becky came along.  Suddenly, everything changed. 

Becky has met Pete.  She even likes him okay.  But she felt very uncomfortable with the affect that his constant complaining about others was having on Denise.  When Becky came home from work most days, Denise’s energy seemed somehow unsettled, her brain filled with concern for Pete; his anger towards co-workers, even towards strangers in the grocery store seemed to fill Denise with a maternal desire to help him somehow.  Denise worried about Pete’s many serious bodily ailments and the affect his constantly stressful thoughts must be having on his body.  And sometimes Becky would come home to find Denise in tears if Pete’s anger on that day happened to turned against her (also not uncommon.)

So Becky asked that Pete not call so much.  All hell broke loose.  Pete was angry, Denise was upset, even the kids that Pete and Denise raised (now adults) were angry.  Becky didn’t join the fight (as all of Denise’s former partners had), she simply stuck to her commitment to live joyfully.  She made it clear to Denise that she loves her dearly, but that she was not interested in having a socially intimate relationship with Pete’s anger.  And it was becoming difficult for Becky to see how she could have a relationship with Denise rather than with “Denise and Pete” who seemed inseparable.

For a while Denise was confused about all of this.  From her perspective, Pete seemed to feel threatened by Becky, as he turned all his anger on Becky.  What Denise couldn’t understand is what was so different about this relationship.  After all, whenever she was in relationships before, she and Pete and whoever she was dating at the time all seemed to get along.  Why was everything going wrong this time?

Denise couldn’t see that what was happening was that the unhappy, angry people in her life were beginning to vibrate out of her life as she was becoming more joy oriented.

Over time, I’ve helped Denise to see that what’s different about this relationship is that for the first time in her life, she’s committed herself to a joy-oriented person.  What Denise didn’t realize when she fell for Becky was that she had put herself into a position where she could no longer split her energy all over the emotional spectrum, juggling conflicting relationships and conflicting feelings.  Denise had chosen to align her energy with a partner who was not willing to compromise her commitment to living joyfully.  Becky’s commitment can be summed up this way, “I will consistently move towards anything (anyone) that increases my joy, and I will consistently move away from anything (anyone) that interferes with my joy.” 

Though it was an unpleasant choice to make, it was also an easy choice for Denise to make.  She didn’t even hesitate to choose the path of joy.  That choice cost Denise a lot of relationships (including her relationship with her children and her ex-husband), but she has never regretted taking the path that she took.  She’s never been happier.  She’s never felt better.  Life has never been smoother.  Somehow, through no effort on her part, life has ceased to be a juggling act, and more and more life keeps easing things into her path that increase and enhance her happiness.  Life with Becky gets better and better every day, and there doesn’t appear to be any limit to how good life can get for them. 

After a lifetime of juggling the good with the bad, some happy experiences with some unhappy, the pleasant people along with the unpleasant, Denise has discovered that simply choosing to consistently align her life energy with the upward emotions of joy, gratitude and love, has yielded to her an end to juggling and compromising. 

What Becky has taught Denise is the art of allowing, the art of giving up the fight, giving up resistance and simply allowing The Universe/God to provide all uplifting things so that life naturally and effortlessly becomes joyful.  What Denise taught Becky is the power of Love; it was Love alone that gave Denise the courage to risk everything she’d ever been or known and choose to believe in the alignment she witnessed in Becky.  And those of us who know and love them both are blessed by God with a beautiful example of just how good life can be.

What an appropriate day of recognition.  I might just have to get Peaches a lovely red rose today.

Then again, with Peaches and me, every day could be appropriately Red Rose Day.  Peaches was waxing poetic this morning about how she’s never before experienced the kind of connection with another human being that she has with me.  It’s certainly mutual.  Everyday with Peaches is better than the day before.  Every night with Peaches is sweeter than any that came before.  Every day we learn something new about each other.  Every day we each feel a little healthier and a little happier.  Last night as we cuddled ourselves to sleep, Peaches was sharing visions from her mind’s eye of the 2 of us, 20 years from now, 30 years from now, still playing, still learning about each other, still getting better and better, happier and happier.  And the vision felt completely natural as she put it out there.

I just can’t say it enough: we credit our conscious alignment with the positive attitude of “gratitude” for our amazing success.  Almost from the beginning of this relationship, we began writing daily lists of things we feel grateful for and sharing those lists with each other.  It’s a wonderful, beautiful thing.  When I read Peaches’ gratitude list to me each day, I feel appreciated; I feel understood; I feel acknowledged.  There are always things that Peaches is feeling about me and about our marriage on that list.  The same is true of my lists to her.  All the good things that far too often go unsaid and unacknowledged in so many long term relationships and marriages in this world get said with much regularity in our gratitude lists to each other.  Our gratitude lists keep us oriented to the good we see in each other and in our marriage and our life together.  We consciously choose not to dwell on our engage with things that we might perceive as unpleasant or negative.  And because we give those things no energy in our marriage, they have no power between or over us.  What we find is that, rather than acknowledging and pushing against things that we consider negative in each other, rather than trying to change things, we focus instead on the things we love and appreciate so that those positive aspects of each other and of our marriage grow larger and more powerful in the life giving warmth of our directed focus.  In this way we find that the so-called negative aspects simply become overwhelmed and overcome by the beautiful and the positive.  In other words, solutions to our problems bloom, take shape and establish themselves without any focused effort on our part, other than to keep ourselves positively oriented by writing daily gratitude lists to each other.

It’s a beautiful thing!

So, this weekend is Gay and Lesbian Pride Weekend in the City of Portland.  I have a long standing tradition of weighing myself down with camera gear and going forth in search of fun photo opportunities.  Usually this involves wearing something flashy or flamboyant and interjecting myself into the parade.  First I’ll march in the parade with one group, then I’ll jump into the crowd at some point, then I’ll jump in with another group, then I’ll slip back into the crowd.  In this way, I get to take pictures of the crowd (from the parade), and I get to take pictures of the parade (from the crowd.)

Two very dear friends will be coming to spend the weekend with Peaches and me.  We really have no plans other than to be in Downtown Portland on Sunday morning for the parade.  Other than that, we’ll be hanging out, playing, eating, laughing, playing board games, all of the above.  We expect to have a wonderful, fabulous, fun filled social weekend.  This will also be the last full weekend of spring.  Summer officially begins at 9:45 pm Pacific Time on Saturday June 20th.  Peaches and I have every intention of finishing out Spring 2009 in a big way this weekend.  And we are looking forward to an amazing summer of lazy days on our covered patio, lawn games in our massive backyard, parties, guests, and one Sunday in July we’ve even planned a private concert by our friends HannaH’s Field who will be performing for several dozens of our closest friends.  Truly, life does not get any better than this. 

Witness the power of gratitude.  There is nothing that Peaches and I have that is not 100% available and accessible to anyone anywhere.  What Peaches and I hope for above all else is to set an example for anyone interested in knowing how to have the kind of love that we’ve created and continue to create.  In our own little way, Peaches and I are light workers carrying the extremely light load of saving the planet, one kiss at a time.

XO,
K

Yeah, well, the last thing I need is donuts.  Between playing in our new house, working around the half acre yard, running the streets with friends, playing pool, and entertaining overnight house guests, Peaches and I haven’t been exercising as much as we usually do.  We’ve made a pact not to obsess about our weight (since we find each other so damn appealing anyway) and instead to play and wallow in mutual-chronic joy.  We’re choosing to stay in faith that our bodies will find their ideal weight based on our joy-inspired diet.  Donuts will not bring me joy today.  Happy Donut Day all the same.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about right and wrong, healthy and unhealthy, appropriate and inappropriate.  I’ve been thinking about how to know whether the choices that I’m making and the paths that I’m taking are best for me, whether these choices are going to serve my growth, joy and happiness into the future, or whether the path that I’m on in any given moment is going to support joy in my marriage with Peaches, or whether my path is going to create problems.

I sometimes think about my former partner’s death process.  Considering she spent 30 months slowly dying of cancer, we managed to have a lot more fun during that process than most people might imagine.  And very shortly after she spoke her final “I love you” to me and left her physical body behind, I came to the purest resolve I’ve ever known: that I will for the rest of my life choose to move towards anything (or anyone) that increases my joy, and will equally choose to move away from anything (or anyone) that interferes with my joy.  (It was right around this time that a delightful monk friend named Sukradeva Ishaya planted the seeds of chronic joy in me when he sat me down and counseled, “Nothing is worth disturbing your peace.  Nothing is worth disturbing your peace!”  Thank you, Sukradeva.)

In the years since that revelation, my path has progressively become clearer and clearer, more and more refined.  When Peaches and I met, I was just beginning to understand what the law of attraction was, never mind having even the remotest comprehension of how to affectively use it to fulfill my joyful desires.  Still, in hindsight, I now see how my resolution to move consistently towards joy brought into my experience the most perfect partner with whom to co-create joyful experiences far beyond my wildest expectations.

The formula is so simple that many people scoff and flat out doubt the sanity of anyone who aligns with it.  Here it is in all its simplicity: When I feel better, things seem to go better.  That’s it!  The essence of the law of attraction can be summed up in those 9 little words.  When I feel better, things seem to go better.  Try it… what do you have to lose?

So if law of attraction is so simple, what are all the law of attraction self help books, seminars, websites and audio/video programs about?  In their purest form, these programs are about getting clear about what you actually want, and they’re about how to get yourself into the best emotional state available to you.  All these programs are really about helping people to feel better, because when they feel better, things seem to go better.  In other words, when I feel better, better feeling experiences come my way.  Or, said another way, when I feel good, good feeling experiences are attracted to me.

It’s such a simple equation when boiled down to its core.  Feel good (or better, as the case may be), and good feeling paths open up to you.  Or, conversely, when you consistently feel good, then you know that the path you’re on is right and appropriate for you and what it is that you want in life.  When you feel good, then you’re on your ideal path.  Or, figure out how to feel good, and you’ll easily, naturally find your way to your ideal path.  That’s it.

So, if what I’m doing, if the path I’m on is making me feel crappy, how do I feel better so that I can find my ideal path?  By any means possible.  If my life isn’t going the way I want it to, then all I need to do is to find a way, any way, to feel better, and the path to fulfillment and all things that I really want in life will reveal itself to me.  Find reasons to feel good.  Find reasons to laugh.  Look for and do anything you can think of that feels like relief, that consistently feels better, and the law of attraction will do the rest.  Seriously, what do you have to lose?  Feeling good certainly feels better than feeling crappy.  And you have everything to gain.

Yesterday Northwestern Oregon had severe weather warnings on TV and radio broadcasts.  Everyone seemed to be running around like nutters as wildly powerful winds came through the region bringing with them torrential rain, hail, lightning and thunder.  The weather service suggested taking shelter inside a sturdy building and staying away from windows.  So what did Peaches and I do?  We grabbed some cheese and crackers, turned on the Chinese lanterns on our covered patio, pulled a couple of chairs to the edge of the patio, let the torrents of rain have their way with the world, and ooooed and ahhhed at the bolts of lightning flashing across the sky.  We cozied up to each other warm and dry, and each time a bolt of lightning flashed across the sky, we counted together until the clap of thunder shook the heavens.  Life doesn’t get any better than this!

XO,
K

 

We ain't afraid of no lightning storm

Okay, Water a Flower Day is actually tomorrow.  But believe it or not there are no goofy remembrances associated with May 29th.  What’s the world coming to?

I’ve never been much of a gardener.  Which is really kind of funny since I’ve work on 2 farms in my life (4 years each) including one that I ran by myself.  I suppose that when I was a farmer, I was more of a technician than a steward of the land.  The first time my primary duty was to keep the farm vehicles running and in good repair.  Well, the second time I tended a 40 acre plot of land with 800 avocado trees on it.  I ran an irrigation system, controlled undergrowth (sort of), and picked fruit.  I’m sure that in the hands of a master gardener so much more could have been done with that land.  But I was damn good at keeping that irrigation system in good working order.

And I now I work for nuns.  I wear pretty clothes, paint my nails every week and I sit at a desk 8 hours a day.  And it’s all I can do to keep our third acre backyard mowed. 

So in honor of Water a Flower Day, I’ll be tending to the care and well being of my favorite flower, Peaches.

Sometimes I have these spontaneous urges to do something really sweet for my pretty wife.  Peaches is such a little baker, baking all day at work and then coming home and baking to relax, I decided that she deserves a new mixer, so I got her one, for no reason other than that I wanted to.  Peaches was so surprised to get a new KitchenAid Pro600 6 quart mixer in fire engine red!  It’s not much, but it is a token of my love for her.

And tonight, being the last Friday of Date Your Mate Month, Peaches has a special date lined up.  I have no idea where she’s taking me or what she has in mind, but I know Peaches… This is going to be spectacular.

I love you, darling wife!  Go make some cookies.

XO,
K