Peaches had a slightly off day yesterday. She wrote me a very sweet message this morning asking whether I thought she was fooling herself during the times that she thinks she’s in balance only to be thrown completely off balance by something happening around her. In other words, if she’s truly in balance, then things happening around her should slide right off her back, like water off a duck, right? This blog entry is the response to her question that came spilling out of me. I hope she doesn’t mind that I’m sharing it here; somehow, it seems to good not to share with others who might really hear what I’m trying to say.
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Hi Honey,
Well, you know, the thing that Abraham-Hicks always says is that when you think about what you want and WHY YOU WANT IT, then you’ve turned yourself downstream (you’re going with the flow of life) and the things you want will flow to you easily. But when you think about what you want and HOW YOU’RE GOING TO GO ABOUT GETTING IT (unless you actually know the answer to the question of “how”) then you’ve turned yourself upstream (going against the flow of life.) And as Abraham-Hicks says, “Nothing you want is upstream.”
We aren’t perfect, you and me. What’s great about us is that we do try. We self examine. We question what’s going on in our own minds. We look at the results we get in our day to day lives, and we do what we can to make the adjustments in our vibration so that our energies turn downstream towards what it is that we do want. We don’t resist guidance. We don’t fight it. We don’t stubbornly hold to what we don’t want just to prove a point or to be defiant.
“A Course in Miracles” says that the thing in life that will get us what we want (alignment with our desires) is “a little willingness.” It’s our little willingness to make the effort to be better that assures our success in all that we set out to do. Success might not always look like what we expect it to, but you have to know that the Universe is delivering to us all that we desire. Our love and commitment to each other, the peace, serenity and passion in our relationship is proof of our growing alignment. You’ve never experienced a relationship like this one before, have you? Neither have I. The only reason we’re experiencing this amazing love now is because of our little willingness to keep reaching for alignment, to keep reaching for the downstream thoughts, to keep looking for the vibrational cause first, rather than to keep looking for physical causes outside of our control.
Nothing happens to us without our participation in it, good or bad. Nothing can happen to us, no one can say something that affects us, nothing comes to us unless we’re in vibrational alignment with that experience first. There’s never an exception to that.
I love you very much, sweetheart. Thank you for being my beloved co-creator. Everyday I wake up thrilled to see what comes next for you and me. Who knew that everyday life could be so exciting, thrilling and adventuresome even at our age. The best is yet to come. The Universe is holding so much super exciting stuff in vibrational escrow for you and me! It’s all there, waiting for us to come into vibrational alignment. It’s all waiting just out of our grasp waiting for us to move an inch further downstream so we can wrap our arms around all that we ever dreamed of. This is the best part of our love, that we, as individuals, have grown so good at living the contrast of what we don’t want just enough for the other to say, “I see that you’re experiencing what you don’t want. What is it that you do want? Reach for the better feeling thought.” In other words, we’ve become a manifestation team that can’t be stopped. There’s nothing we can’t accomplish. There’s nothing in all the Universe that we can’t be, do or have, if only we remember to reach for it. And joyful life experience is our never ending reward in all of this creation.
XOXO,
K
That’s such a lovely message – thank you for sharing it with all of us.
For myself I’ve found that whenever I notice something that’s working in my life and address it (like Peaches saying, “I’ve felt so balanced lately!”), I end up facing a similar situation where suddenly I’m just the opposite and have to ask, “What the f***?” (Sorry… it’s the would-be trucker in me.)
I’m learning more and more to just let what is (balance) BE. If I stop and look at it and go “Wow, good for me!” suddenly my egoic mind starts wondering how it got that way (the how’s) and sees that it had to progress from a place that wasn’t so balanced (meaning I’m now unconsciously looking at what I don’t want). Then whamo! What I don’t want has come back to life.
Not sure if either of you ever watched Arrested Development when it was on, but as Michael Bluth said to his son, “Just keep your head down and power through.”
I give thanks for my life’s greatness each day, but don’t spend too much time examining it or telling others about it. I just let it be and go about my business (and in turn it sticks around longer).
Love to you both!
JoyGirl
By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord on July 9, 2009
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Hi Megan,
Blimey, we need to get you and Peaches together; it’ll be like a trucker’s convention. (My money is on Peaches making you blush rather than the other way around.)
The value of the bad days really can’t be discounted. It’s the contrast that keeps us clear about what we really do want. Though, the contrast is so much more manageable when you have a joyful partner close at hand to help bring awareness quickly back to joyful experience. The contrast of periodically experiencing what we don’t want really helps Peaches and me to reach in a big way for what it is that we do want. And because we have each other to continually turn each other downstream, towards what we want, it feels safe to pass through the unwanted experiences without concern that we’ll get stuck there or spend any more time in that unpleasant/unhappy place than is necessary to help us become clearer about what it is that we do want.
Really my message to Peaches is that she is not kidding herself when she thinks she’s in balance, then suddenly finds herself off-balance. It’s just part of the cosmic play as we chart a course towards greater and greater joyful life experiences. And, so long as we remain ever willing to do whatever it takes to always reach for the joyful life experience, then the momentary off-balance experiences actually have great value in helping us to maintain our steady state, ever-joyful balance, which is by far the greater part of our day to day life-experience. And really, I believe that this is exactly what you, me and Peaches have all come here to share with humanity. Far too many people slip into the unwanted, unpleasant, off-balance experience and just don’t realize that they can, at any moment, reach for a better feeling. Far too many people get stuck in what it is that they don’t want and never realize that they hold ALL the power to turn their experience into something wanted at any time. Far too many couples continually call each other upstream, towards what it is that they don’t want, without realizing the consequences of what it is that they’re doing to each other and to themselves.
You, me and Peaches have become the change that we wish to see in the world. Thank you Peaches. Thank you Megan. I love you both more and more all the time.
XO,
K
By: Katie Starlets on July 9, 2009
at 11:19 am
Hey, I want in on this group hug! I think you are both just awesome, ministering to the world through these blogs. My blog just makes people hungry. Not that that is a bad thing. We all gotta eat.
Seriously, I am ever so grateful to you, my loving wife, for helping me through this thing called life that we find ourselves in. Life with you has been so healthy for me. So safe and ever so sane. Who knew that simple things like gratitude and forgiveness could bring such joyful feelings into my heart and soul? Let’s not forget about the side affects being abundance and prosperity.
So, Katie and Megan, let’s keep telling the world that they all have a choice to float downstream and be happy and well.
XO
Peaches
By: vampiregran on July 9, 2009
at 1:56 pm
You two make my heart happy (and you make my mouth smile)! Thank you!!
By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord on July 9, 2009
at 5:35 pm
It’s funny I just wrote about a similar experience. I think I’m balance and something happens to topple it…but still it is right. And it’s humbling.
By: Kaushik | beyond-karma.com on August 3, 2009
at 1:50 pm