I, like so many others, have hang ups. I feel very fortunate in that I’m never content to just take my less than pleasant moods or attitudes at face value. Whenever I don’t feel as good as I want to feel, I find myself doing focus wheels, gratitude lists, meditation breaks, anything I can think of to turn my mood around. I’m not always successful at changing my attitude right away, but I have found that my dedication to reaching for the best feeling thought available to me in any given moment has dramatically shortened the amount of time that I typically wallow in negative feelings as I get older. Unhappy moods and feelings most definitely had a tendency to linger for much longer periods of time when I was younger… I have really dedicated myself in the past decade to doing anything and everything to minimize those self-imposed negative experiences.
One thing that I’ve found to be extremely helpful in the past that I have not been practicing a whole lot lately is lists of positive aspects, literally writing down a list of things that I feel are positive on any subject. And one of my favorite topics to make a list of positive aspects about is my wife…
Positive aspects of Patty
~> I love Patty’s beautiful red hair, it’s soft, shiny, silky, and I love to bury my face in her hair.
~> Patty takes great care to prepare us the most amazing, beautiful, delicious meals every night, and she infuses everything she prepares with love.
~> I know (I feel) that Patty would do anything for me… there is nothing that Patty would not do for me.
~> I love that Patty is so joy-oriented.
~> Patty is the only person I’ve ever known who understands the nature of the spiritual path that I walk, and she’s whole-heartedly joined me on that path, body and soul.
~> Patty agreed to marry me.
~> Patty loves to laugh, and I love to hear her laugh.
~> Patty has gotten to be a really good pool player; some nights she really gives me a run for my money at the pool table.
~> Patty loves music (almost) as much as I do… she usually enjoys loud music vibrating through the whole house as much as I do.
~> I love the sound of Patty’s voice.
~> Patty is the most amazing co-creative partner I could even imagine; together there does not seem to be anything we can’t manifest into our life once we set our mind to it.
~> Patty is as eager as I am to do whatever it takes to constantly be reaching for the best feeling thoughts available to her in any moment.
~> Patty was amazing the way she stood up for me and for us when her family rejected our marriage.
~> Patty is a walking miracle, getting healthier and healthier every day… even her doctor calls her the poster child for healthy living as he notes the improvement in her overall health and one by one her medications are reduced and eliminated.
~> I love that Patty is my star student in walking this spiritual path as well as my greatest teacher.
~> It’s been 19 months since Patty quit drinking alcohol for the sake of keeping our marriage healthy; 19 months without touching a drop! I love her so much for that.
~> We both feel that we’ve spent our entire lifetime searching for each other, and now that we’ve found each other everything that came before finally makes sense.
~> Patty says that she has never been this happy, this content, or this in love with anyone ever in her life… I totally believe her.
~> I have never known anyone who I can’t get enough of except Patty… and she feels the same about me… Even after 3 years we want to be together all day every day, always in each other’s company… what a rare, precious find we are for each other.